Four Dangers to be Feared after a Retreat:
1 . Dissipation: There, it is over; amuse yourself.
2. Toning Down: Too much, too many, too hard, too often, too etc.
3. Putting Off: Wait a little, rest yourself, take your time.
4. Cowardice: You’ll never do it; you’re no good; it will be the same old story.
And Four Remedies:
1. Presence of God: No, it is not over, it is only just begun.
2. Exactness: No such thing; I’ll do all I have resolved; nothing too much for God.
3. Promptitude: No, at once; here goes; I may die to-day.
4. Determination: We’ll see; I am no good, but Someone good and powerful is with me.
COMMENT: Developing resolutions for the reform of our life is an important part of a good retreat. But Fr Willie, the expert retreat giver who himself experienced such a deep reform of his own life through his own 30 day retreat just after ordination, knew full well the traps that await people after retreats.
A retreat can be a time of great graces and generosity. But when we return to our normal life we can start to get lazy, to lose our focus and our previous generosity.
St Ignatius, in the Spiritual Exercises, gives some advice on this point. When faced with dissipation and desolation, we must never change course, we must stick with our resolutions more firmly than ever, especially if they were developed during a retreat when we experienced consolation and God’s grace in our prayer. If, at some subsequent time when we experience consolation once more, we may be free to adapt our resolutions, but never when facing difficulties and dissipations.
It is well to remember that, as Fr Willie tells us, we are never alone in trying to live our resolutions – the Lord, who is all-powerful, and who desperately wills our sanctification, is ready to help us…

Father Doyle gives us a memorable, and necessary example of perseverance, faithfulness, self -sacrifice, all of which are needed if we truly want to become saints. We need only meditate on the saints, especially the Holy Family. The reality of our striving for holiness is not always easy, or comfortable.
Fathe Doyle, please help us to remember that while looking at the life of the Holy Family, and the lives of all saints, we learn that it takes bravery, determination, and a deep love of God and neighbor; not based on feelings, but on a gentle, faith-filled, trusting will. You learned this and encouraged others to not give up, but to simply give…of oneself, one’s time, attention, listening ear, welcoming heart.